Better Relationships

Relationship Behaviours

Now let’s focus on some of the things that are in your control. As honestly as possible, please reflect on your past and present behaviours.

Often this is a difficult exercise, but it can be useful to reflect on your behaviours.

This is the start of recognising what you need to and can change.

Have you done any of the following behaviours? (Check all that apply)

Called my partner names or told them they're crazy?

Picked on my partner in front of their or my friends and family?

Felt unhappy about my partner seeing friends or family and tried to stop that happening?

Checked my partner's phone to see who they've been talking to?

Made my partner tell me where they are going or report back in detail on what they did and who they saw?

Made sure that I make the rules in my house and are in charge of enforcing them?

Made sure that I control the money and bills and told my partner I don't trust them to manage this properly?

Tried to scare my partner and/or children on purpose or used threats to get them to do something I wanted them to do / not do?

Caused damage to things in the house, broken or smashed items, thrown things at walls or at my partner and/or children?

Taken my frustrations out on pets or animals?

Used physical force against my partner and/or children?

Made my partner have sex or participate in sexual activities when they didn't want to?

Put my hands around my partner's neck, or held them against the wall or floor by the neck?

Waved around or used an object (such as a branch, pole, knife or gun) to scare or harm my partner and/or children?

Other: Please write any other behaviours in your current or recent relationship you are worried about

You have to select at least one item to proceed.

Better Man is an initiative by The University of Melbourne.